While scattering ashes is becoming increasingly popular, some people have regretted it. We've summarized the reasons for this.
1. The scattering location was inappropriate.
When hiring a scattering service, the location is almost always decided at the service's discretion. It seems that people may regret scattering ashes at sea or if the scattering location is too far from their living area. It's fine if the scattering location is a place of memories or a favorite spot of the deceased, but it may be more reassuring to scatter the ashes in a place where surviving family members can visit later.
2. The loss of a place to pray makes people lonely.
Especially when scattering ashes at sea, it's hard to know where to face when praying. It's also a bit unrealistic to have the entire ocean feel like a grave. It's most reassuring to have an area where you can recognize, "I guess the deceased is buried around here." If you scatter ashes in the forest, you can generally identify the area.
In the case of scattering ashes, since it is not possible to retrieve the remains once they have been scattered, consider keeping some of them for "personal memorial" rather than scattering them all. Consider enshrining them in a small urn, storage container, or jewelry. These containers are expensive if you ask a funeral director to do it, so we recommend purchasing them yourself online.
3. Cases where relatives blame you for not being able to visit the grave: In some cases, relatives have complained that the remains were lost when the ashes were scattered without informing them that they would be mourned by scattering the ashes, leading to conflict between relatives. Some people mistakenly believe that this is against the law. Discussing this beforehand may be necessary if you are considering future relationships.
★At the "SANKOTSUYAMA," you can choose where the ashes are scattered. If you choose the "attendance scattering plan," you can visit the grave at any time afterward. You can also have some of the pulverized ashes returned to you for "memorial services at home." At the "SANKOTSUYAMA," there is also a "private scattering area," so you can have a dedicated space and scatter the ashes in the same way as at a traditional grave. |