Cemeteries and graveyards, whether public or private, each have their own management regulations. Generally, they allow the interment of ashes of relatives within the sixth degree of kinship from the owner. Six degrees of kinship broadly encompasses cousins and great-grandchildren.
Japan once had a system in which the eldest son inherited the family estate. This system was based on the idea that the eldest son inherited everything. Article 970, Paragraph 2 of the former Civil Code stipulated that if there were multiple people of equal rank in the family estate, and if they were of the same degree of kinship, males would be given priority. Regarding inheritance, there was also a system in place where the eldest son inherited status and property alone upon the death or retirement of the head of the household. However, as times and attitudes have changed, this system has been abolished in modern times. In those days, second sons often purchased separate graves and started new homes. This custom was viable during an era of population growth and is unthinkable today. And nowadays, we live in an age where people are free to choose who is buried with them, based on a variety of different ideas.
You asked, "Can't a married daughter be buried with me?" The answer is "YES." She can be buried with you. Even if her surname has changed, she is still relatives. You may feel uncomfortable being buried in a grave that says "XX family," but I think it's important to understand that according to the regulations, it is okay for her to be buried with you.
★At "SANKOTSUYAMA," remains are generally buried together, but private scattering plots are also available for sale as an option. Anyone can scatter ashes here, as long as the grave owner gives permission. You can freely scatter the ashes of your pet or a close friend in the space.
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